I have a couple of proud momma moments to share…
Jake was fully potty trained during the day about 3 years ago. Potty training him took a very long time and it was SO hard; the thought of trying to teach him to stay dry at night was on the very back burner. He has worn pull-ups every night and we didn’t even start talking about staying dry through the night until several months ago when I told him that none of us wore pull-ups at night. He looked at me so puzzled and laughed saying something like “you and daddy do wear pull-ups at night; everyone does.” I told him that we didn’t and told him if he stayed dry he could wear big boy underwear like all of us to bed. He looked shocked, I wish I had a picture to capture the look on his face. About 2 weeks ago Jake woke up with a dry pull-up and I told him I was so proud that his pull-up was dry. Jake was so excited that he was dry and told me he was going to try to keep it dry the next night too. The next morning it was dry again! I told him if he kept his pull-up dry for a week I would take him to get a Transformer. He had a few mornings he was a little wet but for the past week he woke up dry every morning. Every morning we celebrated! This past Friday was the day he would get to buy a Transformer and was thrilled when he woke up dry once again. He was jumping around telling me “I am dry and now I get a transformer!!” He then told me “I want to wear underwear like you, Dad and Sis tonight!” I was a little nervous but let him wear underwear to bed on Friday night and he was thrilled when he woke up Saturday morning, dry! We celebrated and he talked about how he didn’t ever want to wear a pull-up again! Another milestone checked off the list! So proud of this kid and I didn’t have to stress over it…he was ready and did it all on his own!
Friday, May 27th, was Jake’s last day of 1st grade. Overall he had a great year. We hit a few bumps and there was a point I thought we might have to go back to having a full-time aide or even pulling him out of class during the day due to his behaviors. Fortunately, the staff at Jake’s school is phenomenal! His teacher, resource teacher and aide worked diligently with him at school while I worked hard at home. Jake’s behaviors finally dwindled down and he was more compliant and a better student. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it many times over the next several years while we are in elementary school but they all want the best for Jake. They want to see him grow and succeed almost as much as we do and I couldn’t ask for anything better.
I am a little sad the school year is over because we have to leave an amazing teacher; she was a perfect fit for my boy. I want to take Mrs. S. with us to the 2nd grade. I’m already praying for his new teacher and praying Jake has another great connection. I am also excited that school is over. We will have a more relaxed schedule, something that Jake doesn’t do well with which is why I am making it this way. We are working on being more flexible and doing things on a whim. The way Jake’s brain works is he needs to prepare and know what each step is and if there is a kink in the plans he usually breaks down. Just the other day we had 4 places to go and he kept repeating the steps over and over. After the second stop I had to run home for a minute. This was not part of the plan and Jake immediately started melting down. One of the things he has worked on in his social playgroup is being flexible so I told him “buddy, I know this wasn’t part of our plan but I really need you to be flexible right now, okay?” He stopped crying almost immediately, took a couple of big deep breaths, repeated the steps and said “okay, we can stop at home. Jake, you can do this!” He smiles at me in the rear view mirror and said “I’m good and I’m flexible!” This was a BIG DEAL!!!!
We still have a lot of behaviors to work through and Jake can be very difficult at times but we are making progress each and every day and I couldn’t be more proud of this kid!