The past few weeks we have seen a lot of growth in Jake. These weeks have been full of many “firsts”. These warm my heart and make those very long day’s worth ever second. For those with children on the spectrum, no matter where they fall, persistence pays off. The hours of tantrums, tears and emotional break downs, both the child and the parent, there is light. It might not be this huge TA-DA moment but they are there. Keep hoping and doing what you do. Even if your child is not on the spectrum but you find this parenting thing so hard; there is always that light and the hope for what will be in the future!
Here are a few things Jake has been up too lately:
- Jake told me he loved me! I didn’t say it first. He called my name and said “I love you!” I honestly, had sort of given up expecting to ever hear him say these words to me without me saying them first.
- Jake has been talking nonstop. Less than a year ago I wondered if we would ever have any type of real conversation. His conversational speech has improved just over the past couple of weeks. He is always telling me something he has read or seen or something he thinks is interesting. He wants to make sure I am listening and asks questions and we go back and forth. Ask him anything about Transformers and he will tell you! This is the majority of our conversations but hey, I’ll take it! I always wanted to know the history of Optimus Prime – ha!
- Loud noises have always bothered my boy. He will cover his ears, fall to the floor, curl up in a ball and cry. Jake used to do this with all loud noises but lately if they are expected they don’t seem to bother him in the slightest. This past Friday we attended the school’s annual fundraising race. The music was really loud, the kids were even louder and Jake didn’t seem to mind how loud it was. I was watching him to see if he needed my help but he did not! He danced, cheered and shouted with his friends!
- Jake ate a lollipop. He doesn’t eat and won’t try any type of candy. He had gotten one at school one day for being a good helper or something, got in the car opened it and started sucking on it! What?!?! He didn’t eat the whole thing but he tried something new!
- Jake tried a popsicle. He hates cold things and has been offered popsicle’s many times but this past Friday he decided to try one. He might have licked it once but he held onto that thing like it was a prized possession!
- Jake allowed his hand to be written on with a sharpie, something for school, and didn’t hate it.
- Jake got a temporary tattoo at school. Now this one was a little harder for him, he really wanted it because it was part of the race day. After I put it on him he wanted it off. He hid his arm and wouldn’t let anyone see it. He picked at it, licked it and did everything he could to get it off. BUT he didn’t cry or freak out; huge moment here!
- Jake will say hi and wave to people he knows and responds when someone says hi to him. This has been a long long work in progress and one of the biggest moments thus far in our journey. It is almost strange for me to hear a child say hi to Jake and he responds with hi. I really couldn’t believe it when this happened the other day! (Thanks Dr. Allison!!)
Jake wouldn’t be where he is without the many wonderful therapists (I’ll write more about them later) that have helped Jake. Right now he has this amazing teacher. She treats him with respect and pushes him just enough. Jake trusts her, he loves her, he respects her and because of this he feels secure to try many new things. Jake had the best 1st grade teacher and I didn’t think he would be lucky enough to have another great teacher but we do; Jake is blessed!
So you can see, anything is possible! Keep encouraging, offering and keep moving each day. You just never know when your child will do something that you didn’t think he would ever do! Jake may never get his hands super messy finger painting, he may never run through a sprinkler, write without a struggle or try unfamiliar foods. But just because he refuses something today doesn’t mean he will always refuse. There is this hope that I have and with that hope I am certain he will do many more things that today he doesn’t!