I’m happy to say that things have been going pretty well over here. Jake has finished his first 9 weeks of 3rd grade and did well. Third grade has been a little challenging, academically. It’s been an adjustment for us having two teachers, harder assignments where things don’t come as easy to him and having to actually study for quizzes and tests. Grades don’t mean much to Jake, he knows that 100 is good and a 69 isn’t but that’s about all he knows from what I can tell. If he sees he failed a test or a quiz he might make a sad face but overall, it doesn’t upset him. He wants to do his best but helping him understand the grading system and the importance of it has been challenging. Jake seems to excel in science and social studies, math is coming along but language arts is proving to be harder for him. He has to critically think; something he hasn’t really had to do before. Answers just don’t come to him in this area, taking time to think things through isn’t something that comes naturally. For typical kids this can be hard but when you have a processing disorder like autism it can be extremely difficult getting the thought from his brain to pencil and then to paper. But I have to say he is doing better; I am already seeing critical thinking play a part in other areas.
One thing we’ve seen in Jake is his ability to be more flexible. This is a really big concept for him to understand and something we’ve been working on for a couple of years now; to see him trying to be more flexible is really neat and rewarding. Over the past several months John’s family, from NY, have come down to visit and stay here with us. Jake’s routine has been disrupted and he has had to be more flexible with a variety of things and he is learning to how to cope much better.
Social skills play a huge part in all of this. One thing I’ve learned from having Jake attend his weekly social skills group is how much it helps everything come together. I used to think social skills was just interacting with others but it really isn’t just that. It helps Jake learn how to critically think. It helps him to stop, look and listen to what is going on around him and helps him process it all a little better. Social skills teach him how to be more flexible, how to engage in his environment and is helping him to be more versatile. Social skills have helped to teach Jake how to manage his emotions when things get hard and gives him the tools to find his calm and move past those difficult situations.
All of this to say, Jake is doing great and we are all so proud of this kid. His conversational skills have improved over the past few months. To hear him talk to his sister, aunts and uncles has made my heart smile so big! Jake talks to John and me but we are around him the majority of the time. To hear him hold conversations with others is really exciting! Allie recently moved out, she’s renting a house close to campus, and hasn’t seen much of this side of Jake. Yesterday she stopped by to drop off some things and Jake walked up to her as asked her what she doing. Sounds small and insignificant but it wasn’t and isn’t. He is verbalizing what he is seeing and asking questions without being prompted. Love seeing this side of Jake!
Life with autism isn’t easy, by a long shot. We have our daily struggles with food, behaviors and a variety of other things that I’ll focus on more in the coming weeks. Just because something works today doesn’t mean it will work tomorrow. We’ve been on this journey for 6 1/2 years and although some things have gotten easier there is always a new “thing” that leaves me scratching my head.
This boy makes everything worthwhile though!